This post is co-authored by Loren Margolis, MSW, leadership faculty at the State University of New York and executive coach at Training & Leadership Success, a global leadership development firm. I had just completed my third year at my former company and was having my annual performance review. I shared my accomplishments with my manager
When my daughter Sophie was six years old, she confessed to me that she trusted me the second most in the whole world. I was both flattered and, I admit, a little confused. Who did she trust more than me? Her dad? Her grandma? Her twin brother Jake? And when I asked her, “Who do
“We couldn’t do this without you.” “You’re our rock star.” “Don’t ever even think about leaving, ok?” If you’ve ever heard one or more of these from your boss, you probably felt pretty good. Being seen as indispensable at work can make you feel important and significant, and give you a (perhaps misguided) sense of
As a frequent speaker at conferences and retreats, I am used to having a photographer in the room taking pictures. And for many years, I was also used to making this quip when my photo was being snapped: “I’m glad I put on my Spanx,” referring to the restrictive undergarment that aims to smooth out
I had just finished facilitating a workshop for a Fortune 500 company in New York City and was saying goodbye to the participants. Two women from the group stayed after to chat with me, until one of them looked at her watch and said, “We need to go right now, or we will miss our
I take a Mental Health Day (almost) every Friday. It means that my four-day workweek schedule is pretty packed. It means that I run my errands on the weekend. It means that I say "no" a lot. And it also means that I often have to remind my boss that I need this, I want
As Coretta Scott King said, “Struggle is a never-ending process.” And yet, we don’t like to see others struggle, especially when we care about them. It’s particularly hard to see someone struggle when we believe that we can make things easier for them – and when we have the resources (knowledge, skills, time, money, connections,
It was 2013, and I was leading a workshop for a client in Baltimore when I got a call from a TV network asking if I could be interviewed on their show the next morning about how to deal with setbacks at work. I had always dreamed about being on television as a thought leader.
Even if you’ve been lucky enough to survive the last year, you’re probably not operating at your peak performance, emotional highpoint, or (as they say) living your best life. And whether you’ve been holed up at home alone or trying to manage a busy family while working full time, you’ve likely noticed that other people
It was the best of times, it was the worst of times, it was the age of wisdom, it was the age of foolishness, it was the epoch of belief, it was the epoch of incredulity, it was the season of Light, it was the season of Darkness, it was the spring of hope, it
